Quite strange to realize it but for many couples the idea of open marriage is absolutely okay. To tell the truth I could hardly be happy in open marriage. But it turns out that many couples decide to change their lives for the better. The scenario is almost the same. Spouses spend most of the time with their kids and it looks like they are happy family. It’s an ordinary situation. Well, of course they are happy. But their family is different. Other days or nights they spend with their lovers. And both of them are okay with it. It seems to be really wonderful as they are not jealous. Actually both of them are able to admit that it strengthens their marriage. A wife doesn’t care her husband is with someone else because she is also with someone else. The very idea is pretty strange. But those people seem to be brave I would say. They are sharing experiences with each other. I’ve read some articles of open marriage partners. They are happy that it is possible for them to be in a open marriage. Why do they decide to do it? Probably because the marriage as we used to think of it is too boring for them. They continue doing what they always have been done. It is not about cheating or betraying. It is mainly about openness and understanding. As the rule spouses let their kids into their lifestyles. And the kids are okay with it. They spend the time with their parents’ lovers as well.
It is quite a common question if men and women can be friends. I am not going to comment on this; as I have been unlucky to end up falling in love with my best male friends and having them all gone, I am more eager to contemplate on friendship between two women. There are quite contradictory points of view on this matter, and though these are mostly men who say such friendship is impossible, most women agree it is harder for females to keep friendly relations up.
You may have great times together when everything is fine – go out for a glass of wine after work, discuss all the latest fashion trends, go shopping or simply gossip, encourage and support each other through tough time, share advice and life experience and just feel comfortable together, but in case you have to compete for something, all this friendliness and sincerity are instantly gone. Women are not generally ready to give something up for the sake of friendship, especially if it comes to dating a distinguished man or being promoted at work. So if you and your female friend have occasionally fallen in love with the same man or aim to get the same prestigious job, you have to give up the competition or compete fairly, otherwise you may end up being foes for the rest of your lives. However, not all women (this very well relates to men just as well) are able to play the game by the rules, abiding first of all to their moral values and being ready to compromise, so their selfishness results in having a friendship ruined.