A Woman and a Woman: Friends-can-be?

It is quite a common question if men and women can be friends. I am not going to comment on this; as I have been unlucky to end up falling in love with my best male friends and having them all gone, I am more eager to contemplate on friendship between two women. There are quite contradictory points of view on this matter, and though these are mostly men who say such friendship is impossible, most women agree it is harder for females to keep friendly relations up.

You may have great times together when everything is fine – go out for a glass of wine after work, discuss all the latest fashion trends, go shopping or simply gossip, encourage and support each other through tough time, share advice and life experience and just feel comfortable together, but in case you have to compete for something, all this friendliness and sincerity are instantly gone. Women are not generally ready to give something up for the sake of friendship, especially if it comes to dating a distinguished man or being promoted at work. So if you and your female friend have occasionally fallen in love with the same man or aim to get the same prestigious job, you have to give up the competition or compete fairly, otherwise you may end up being foes for the rest of your lives. However, not all women (this very well relates to men just as well) are able to play the game by the rules, abiding first of all to their moral values and being ready to compromise, so their selfishness results in having a friendship ruined.

How to make you relationship work

We all know how to attract the opposite sex. We are born with it. But to stay together, to be happy, to make your partner happy – it is a challenge. Here I am going to speak about how you can keep your man. It doesn’t mean we (women) need it more than men though; they should try to make relationships work just as hard as we do.

Steve Harvey believes that every man needs only three things: Support, Loyalty and Sex. I say support is what every person needs, it’s natural. Harvey believes that if you love your husband, support him, and are loyal to him, sex is just what comes naturally. And of course he is right. He also says that if man doesn’t build his career, he will not be able to focus on your relationship. And I agree – for men career comes first: money and a place to live are the basic needs of any person, and of course a man can’t focus on you / wedding / marriage / kids if he didn’t build a career yet. And in this case he needs your support.